Hey… It’s a daunting question which Jamie and I are dealing with at the moment… We’re at seven months and change now and his lease expires on the 30th of April and we’re already thinking about moving in together. Sure, it’s a long way off, but it already scares myself and him… So we’ve decided to make this decision very carefully and very slowly…

I think if he was to move in with you, you should have some VERY frank and VERY open discussions about how to maintain your relationship throughout the period. He should know, beforehand and as much as humanly possible, all of your quirks, bad habits and potential flareups. You’ll have to draw up a list of things you won’t bend on (ie: I’m not getting rid of my couch, or things like that) and be ready to compromise. He should do the same. You should also sit down with your finances and figure out exactly who owes who what. And then you’ll both have to be ready to sit down and figure out exactly how the hell you two are going to give each other space.

Jamie and I have resolved the latter question by deciding that we’re going to get a two- or three-bedroom townhouse… That way we will have OUR bedroom and we will each have our own rooms in which we can put our computers or whatever we want. It’s all about accomodation baby.

Anyway, I’ve never really moved in with anyone before, so I really can’t offer any better advice than that, but at least it’s a start.

MAB

The one and only time I’ve co-habbitated with a partner was after just 3 months. I was very much in love with the boy at the time, he i don’t think so much with me. It was a move of convenience for him to move out of his grandmothers home, for me it was fun and a new experience as a fresh faced gay boy at only 18 years of age.

We only managed another 2 months together before he moved out. I don’t know if it was the moving in together or just the inevitable course of our relationship, but i do know moving in together showed us the cracks and flaws in the relationship more accutely than otherwise noticed.

Not saying it can’t work or won’t even, just take some time to think about and the trial idea is a brilliant one in my mind. It will give you a chance to see how you both adapt to each others quirks, and show each other, with the safety net of an escape, some flaws or issues that need to be worked on with some more clarity.

does that even make sense? hope so.

I’ve been with my BF now for 3 years, and truly, I don’t see how people see that as so much longer in terms of “gay” years. But that is the side point.

With moving in, he started staying with me on the weekends, which then turned into a few more days, then into now, almost all the time. But honestly, having him stay enough, was a good thing, learning each other intricacies. The thing is this, still having your own life. You need to be together, but you still need to each have a place to do your own thing, and also to have a life outside of the relationship. Make sure of that, because if not, that is going to make things difficult, at least I have found. I know you’ll want to spend all the time together, but it is a wonder, when sometimes, you do things apart. If you love him and he does with you, compromise in the home, you both will have to learn to give and take a little. If that is happening, it will work out, because of the love.

~~ HUGS ~~

Congrats on 6 months
In any relationship, 6 months is great!