I’ve been very proud of my big ol’ beast at home… the computer that is. 4 disks spinning for over 4 years, 1TB storage total, and finally one of them failed the other day. 250GB lost, just like that! But that’s not the worst bit… it was my porn drive!!!! Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!! **sighs** Oh well, time to go for a browse… **evil grins** |
Browsing Posts published in May, 2008
Ok, so thanks to Ediie, I’ve just discovered what I’ve kinda known all my life… my hearing is shit. I don’t know if it’s always been that way, or it’s a result of a few too many nights in the loud clubs… but I doubt it’s gunna come back. Eddie posted about a “Mosquito Ringtone” fad that only kids can hear, Adults cannot (due to the fact that human hearing naturally degenerates over time). I gave it a try, with Adam sitting beside me. He could hear up to about 18-20 MHz. Mine dropped out after 12. So I went one better, and googled to find this site, where you can test the full envelope of your ear’s frequency response. Sure enough, I could hear the 12 KHz tone easily enough… but when I clicked the 16 KHz tone (turned up full volume), Adam cringed at the tone whilst I couldn’t hear anything. Click through the link above and leave your results in the comments… It’d be good if you could put your age next to your highest frequency heard, but if you must leave out your age, that’s fine |
Am I the only one destined to be turned into a deaf old coot?
There’s an old saying amongst pilots that goes along the lines of “learn from the mistakes of others for you will never live long enough to make them all yourself”. I’ve used this motto lately in terms of my relationship with Adam… problems have been encountered lately which have required me to seek out help and advice from others; friends, and even family. As it is, we’ve both started to question the legitimacy of our relationship and whether we’d be better off elsewhere. Without smart and considered action, the prospects aren’t good. Interestingly enough, the best advice came from my brother, and unlikely candidate but a worthy one. He married at the age of 24, without any prior relationship experience. 10 years on, he is still married, has 2 beautiful kids with number 3 due within a few months. As they said to me… relationships require a lot of work, especially as the years get on. Understanding and communicating with your partner is nothing new in terms of advice, but understanding differences in how partners express love and feel loved in return is something that sunk in with me. He told me about something that he and his wife had read, and meant a lot to them: The 5 Love Languages. The book, written by Gary Chapman, outlines that every person expresses their love in different ways, and many frustrations and subsequent fall outs in a relationship are attuned to the fact that many people don’t know exactly what “love language” the other person speaks, let alone how to speak it. Ever had that time when you walked around the store for 4 hours to get the perfect spontaneous gift, give it to your partner, and then have them say “thankyou” and give you a peck on the cheek (if that), making you feel a bit let down? Or wonder why you’re always fighting about never having enough “us” time when you don’t really think it’s much of an issue? Or that intimacy has died completely, and despite you expressing this to your partner it just doesn’t sink in? To be brief, most people express their love in at least one of 5 ways: (One is primary, but others may be secondary). They are: Verbal compliments, saying words that show how much you appreciate your partner, saying “I love you” can be very powerful. People who speak this language often appreciate the kind word, the “cheer-me-up” speech when down, and respond powerfully to what is said using words. Quality time is nothing new, but do both partners value it fully? It this crazy and busy world, it is sometimes difficult to get enough time away from other commitments to just spend time, “quality” time, with your partner. What values as “quality” changes from person to person, but many people don’t see “quality” time as imperative to the relationship. I usually like to think of this as “intimacy”, in all its forms. In most cases, the “act of love” aka sex is the primary way for many people to express their emotions. Some people likewise don’t value sex as much, sure it’s important but “it doesn’t define our relationship.” Physical touch can include many other things however from hugs to caressing… anything you would define as intimate. Ever heard the complaint “he never takes the garbage out” or “he never cooks for me”, only to have it blow up into a full-scale war? Why does your partner get so riled up over taking garbage out? Because it is an act that shows thoughtfulness and consideration… something that value highly. Pretty straight forward… some people like to shower their beau with gifts, the more expensive the better. Often though they will get upset when their partner doesn’t seem to “get” the value of these gifts. None of the above are anything new… all are important in a relationship. But what does your partner value? What do you value? Chances are they are something quite different, and if fights and frustrations are happening despite love being present, chances are that you are not “speaking” your partner’s language, and they aren’t speaking yours. Anyway, it’s a thought that makes sense to me, so hopefully it does to you too! This is just the tip of it all, frankly I haven’t even read this book yet. As I do, if I come up with anything more I’m sure I will have cause to write about it here again
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